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10 Dating MYTHS Men fall Victim to: SAMPLE
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MYTH #1 – YOU HAVE TO LIE TO GET WOMEN
The oldest trick in the book is you have to lie to girls to get action. Like Rodney Dangerfield said in the movie Back to School, “Why did you lie to me Jason? You don’t lie to me…you lie to girls!”. Although that may work in some small instances it is a recipe for disaster. Here’s why. Let’s say you meet a girl and you really like her. And let’s even say you’ve been to one of those $3,000 seduction courses and they teach you these canned lines called “heart melters” that are fictitious stories to get women to like you.
One example of the stories they might have you ell girls is you sold your toys when you were 7 years old to help pay the electric bill. Now, let’s say you tell that story to a woman and then 3 months later the woman you are dating finds out that it isn’t true. You are now completely out of congruence with what she thought you were and you become something else. You can NEVER regain the trust that you had. You never really built in the first place because you based part of your personality and your past on a lie. It is almost impossible to recover from that. The number one deal breaker in relationships for 67% of women polled is lying. It ranked higher than cheating!
MYTH #2 – YOU HAVE TO BE RICH TO GET WOMEN
I truly believe this is the biggest myth that exists in dating and I can tell you first hand that the best lady killers I know are either regular guys with regular jobs or are broke. The real issue here is inadequacy. Most men fall victim to the notion that if they are not rich they won't adequately be able to do the things that women want. They also then believe they don’t have what it takes to satisfy them emotionally or physically. This is when you really start to hear the excuses men come up with. It’s society’s fault, it’s the economy’s fault, it’s MTV’s fault but it’s NEVER the man in the mirror’s fault.
Oddly enough, the things that women WANT THE MOST don’t cost a thing! These are the top 7 things women wanted when polled are: Being chivalrous, being confident, having a sense of humor, being a leader of providing direction, making them FEEL that they are a priority, being passionate and being a protector & they don’t cost a dime!
MYTH #3 – WOMEN DON’T WANT SEX AS MUCH AS MEN
If that were true NONE of us would be here. The planet has 6.7 BILLION people as of 2008. That’s a lot of sex going on and I know for an absolute fact that it is the women that are having the babies. Women are programmed in their DNA much differently than men. It is their job to seek out the strongest, most virile, healthy and intuitive men to provide them with healthy offspring. They can’t help it. Its 195 thousand years of human conditioning to continue to procreate and continue the species. That is good old fashion mother nature at work. So ultimately, women really want to have sex and I think they want it more than men. They think about it more, they spend more time on their looks and fashion than we do. All of the social programming is to look good for potential mates. I don’t care what women say they are doing it for male attention and they know it.
MYTH #4 – YOU HAVE TO CONVINCE WOMEN TO LIKE YOU / SLEEP WITH YOU
One of the major differences between men and women is men tend to think logically and women tend to think emotionally. Both have the ability to do both but the tendencies of each are customarily to use one type over the other. It is the condition of the human brain in both sexes. Yes, we all have a left side, a right side, a primal or reptilian brain and a flight or fight mechanism. What I am referring to is each sexes individual ability to reason. To make sense of things.
The one problem I see frequently, and television is one of the worst offenders, is that it is men that are usually “begging” women or seeking their “permission” for intimacy and they do it by trying to convince or use logical reason to make it happen. But you should give me a shot at what’s in your pants because of my job? The car I drive? The things I will buy for you? Most women are completely turned off by this type of approach. It is a pitiful attempt to gain favor by reducing integrity and self-respect. But Hollywood has really big pockets and they know what sells no matter how considerably untrue and ineffective this action may be.
MYTH #5 – YOU HAVE TO BE A NICE GUY TO GET WOMEN
This is a very damaging myth. It is the exact opposite of what we have been saying thus far. This is not one of the things that women are looking for or are attracted to. Where is the take charge part? Where is the value? Being a nice guy just simply makes you a nice guy but it will not help you get women at all.
The biggest problem with being the “nice guy” is it will undoubtedly put you in the friend zone. You are expressing that you ARE NOT any of the things she is looking for in a potential mate but are “sweet” or are “a really good person” and you have now been filed and categorized as someone who will never get in to her pants. Time and time again guys fall into this role and you end up more like a brother than a suitor.
MYTH #6 – LISTEN TO A WOMAN’S PROBLEMS AND SHE’LL BECOME ATTRACTED TO YOU
This is one I used to do constantly as a teenager. I would listen to all the hot girls in the neighborhood problems about the bad boys that were breaking their hearts. They would open up to me and I really did think that because of that trust they would now want to date someone sensitive and caring like me. Wrong, they would just go back to the heart breakers no matter how much I logically tried to convince them to date me for being a sweet, sensitive nice guy. Sound familiar?
This falls in to the exact same category as the “gentleman nice guy” because at the end of the day it is a back handed ploy to get women to sleep with you rather than being direct and up front and just going for it. This is a desperation move. It logically makes sense. If a woman opens up emotionally than there will be a connection and she will feel the same way you do and presto. Sex. Not exactly. What really happens is she is getting free “therapy” because you are ‘such a good listener” (friend quality not mate quality) and the more and more you listen the more and more she talks and the farther and farther you fall in to the friend zone.
MYTH #7 – ALL THE GOOD WOMEN ARE TAKEN OR ARE IN LOVE WITH JERKS
According to the U.S. Census bureau there are over 305,000,000 people in the United Sates of America at the time of this book. The United States population is 51% women or 155,500,000 total women. There are a total of 105,000,000 women between the ages of 20-44. There are only 59,000,000 married women in the entire country. Even if every married woman was between the ages of 20-44 (which obviously is not the case) that would leave 46,000,000 women between the ages of 20-44 who are single. 46,000,000 is a lot of single women left.
MYTH # 8 – YOU HAVE TO BE A HANDSOME “LADY KILLER” TO COMPETE
FOR A WOMAN’S ATTENTION.
This myth has been created by the flaw that we are all human. What I mean by that is all human beings feel they are fundamentally flawed. There must be something wrong with you! And there is. You are human but your advantage is that we ALL have this flaw. So no one has the advantage.
Your ability to attract women, as we have discussed in previous sections, has nothing to do with your physical appearance, bank account, and the car in the driveway or any other male compensation you can think of. It is our JOB as humans to keep the species alive. As odd a this may sound it is your RIGHT as a human to have sex with women.
Even the poorest, ugliest, fattest, skinniest, shortest and car less men are having sex RIGHT NOW! The one thing that guys that get women have that the other ones don’t is the necessary confidence.
MYTH #9 – WOMEN KNOW WHAT THEY WANT
I have been asking the question, “Do men know what women want?” to women for years and I get the same response frequently. They say “No they don’t, and that is because women don’t know what they want!” One thing I know for sure is what women say they want and what turns them on are often not the same.
They also don’t want to have to tell you how to get them, how you should act or what you should be doing in order to get them. Where is the fun in that? Women love the chase. If you have to ask them what they want then you have already squashed the one thing they are really looking for. If you try and ask for the short cut to her heart she will walk away. The more independent you are and the more you keep them on their toes the better your chances.
MYTH #10 – GETTING WOMEN IS TOO HARD AND IT TAKES UP TOO MUCH TIME
Like anything you do in life you have to be efficient and smart to be successful. Being successful with women is no different but there are some things you can do to maximize your efforts. First of all, nothing you are doing to attract women is really all that hard. All you are really doing is talking and showing body language. You aren’t lifting 1,000 lbs. over your head and you don’t need 4 PhD’s. Venue scouting is a good technique. It just simply means start talking to the women that go in to the places you go in to on a daily basis. Starbucks, your office, the gym and all the places you go out to eat. Just simply say, “Hi, I’m _____” and start a conversation.
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